So I've noticed that I have changed this past year. I have been a little mean to people by being more truthful and straight out blunt with people. I met a person that introduced me to this theory and it has stuck with me. The theory (if it really is a theory) is that if someone does something wrong, let them know straight out that what they did was wrong or else they will continue to do that action. I did this to someone yesterday. It was stuff that happened over years, but it felt good to not keep things built up inside me. I ended up making this person cry, which was a shock. I expected the person to just get upset or angry. I must say that I now believe this person is immature. I used to be a person who would let things slide and never say anything. Now I don't like making people cry, but I believe that people deserve to know the truth about their actions in life. I think being honest is the best thing a person can do. Whether it is a complete stranger, an acquaintance, a good friend, or the person you are dating/engaged/married to, honesty goes a long way. It helps a person think about their actions and how it effects others around them. Who knows, maybe honesty towards someone can help that person be a better person, friend, etc. I think that we all try to avoid any kind of conflict to a point that we are then stuck with that person repeating the same actions that bugged us to begin with. The longer we are not honest with someone, the more that person thinks their actions are perfectly okay. Then, the day you do manage to get the guts to say something, that person has gotten away with their actions for so long that they won't change what they are doing.
So if I am a little mean through my honesty, I apologize. It isn't meant to be hurtful, I do it because I care. I care about how we all treat each other.
